As I’ve mentioned before, my husband has a habit of asking where I am even when it’s clear I’m right in the next room. I’ve gotten used to this and there are times I even find it kind of endearing. He’d often say, “Where’s my baby?” and I guess I was expected to reply, “I’m in the kitchen” or some such thing. (I’m aware this line of questioning would make much more sense if we lived in a large, multi-story house but seems fairly ridiculous in a 500 square foot 1 bedroom apartment. Still, I do occasionally like to humor my husband.)
But lately the conversation goes more like this:
Husband: Where’s my baby?
Me: I’m in the kitchen, getting a snack. [This is most often where I am and what I'm doing. I probably spend the majority of my time at home in the kitchen getting snacks.]
Husband: No, my baby.
You see, I guess I’m no longer his baby. I’m now just the person carrying his baby. And I seem to have lost my name, too. Somehow I’ve gone from having an actual name that I’ve grown pretty familiar with over the course of my years of life to “My baby’s mom”. As in: “What does my baby’s mom want to watch on tv tonight?”
Yes, I’m glad that my husband is excited about the prospect of having a baby. Really, I am. But I hope I’m not turning into just an incubator for my husband’s baby. Maybe when he starts indulging my 2am cravings for spaghetti carbonara or his massages start to exceed 45 seconds then I won’t really care what he calls me.
11 responses so far ↓
Sarah // February 3, 2010 at 3:30 pm |
LOL, maybe you should start calling him “Dick”. Where are you Dick? Come here Dick! Dick, can you take out the garbage? Is that it Dick? Buuuaahhh!! Usually this blow off behavior comes from relatives and friends. They come over and go directly to the belly. Bad Dick!!!
Elizabeth // February 3, 2010 at 10:45 pm |
I am pregnant and my husband acts the exact same way!! I’m glad he’s excited, but carrying a child is hard work…sometimes I would like more recognition than being called the incubator! Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope all is well
Amy // February 4, 2010 at 10:33 am |
HAHA!
I’ve become, “The baby carrier” LOL!
So funny!
Erin // February 4, 2010 at 11:37 am |
Congrats!!!
Andi // February 4, 2010 at 1:07 pm |
Two words…”sperm donor”. It might actually get him to stop.
anne // February 4, 2010 at 8:00 pm |
@ andi. would that not kill him. so funny
PaisleyJade // February 5, 2010 at 4:57 pm |
Congratulations!!!
I used to be called princess but now my husband calls my two girls that – he says I’m not the big queen???
Check out my post here – he has this annoying pose for photos!!
http://www.paisleyjade.com/2010/02/favourite-things-friday.html
lori // February 6, 2010 at 2:41 am |
Didn’t know you were preggers! Congratulations! You can always get your revenge after the baby is born and has colic and a dirty diaper and you “have to run to the store just for a minute” and go out for dessert with a girlfriend instead.
Sojourner // February 9, 2010 at 5:41 pm |
I’m curious: Have you told him this bothers you? Sometimes it’s better just to deal with it out in the open.
HumorlessBastard // February 18, 2010 at 2:47 am |
You might try responding, “What do you mean, YOUR baby?”
That ought to break that habit right quick.
(And let it not be said that I’m entirely one-sided in dispensing snark.
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Kimberley2 // February 22, 2010 at 9:38 pm |
you can always get back at him when it’s time to deliver by breaking I mean squeezing his hand. How else are you going to get his baby out of your incubator?