I have a job that currently has me on a different schedule pretty much every day. Some days I may have to work early in the morning and other days I won’t get home until almost midnight. It can get a little confusing and sometimes it’s hard to remember what exactly my schedule is for that particular day. Somehow though, I manage. My husband? Not exactly.
On Sunday, he’ll ask me what my schedule for the week is and I’ll give him the basic rundown. Then Monday morning he’ll say to me, “What time are you coming home today?” I sigh but try to remain patient and tell him. Then, for some reason, he acts shocked as if this is the first he’s hearing of it. ”You won’t be home until 9pm?!? When were you going to tell me this?” And so this goes, every single day. Inevitably, there’ll be one or two days a week when, after being thoroughly briefed on my schedule for the day, he’s taken completely by surprise when I walk through the door. ”I didn’t think you were going to be home for another couple of hours! ” he exclaims as he jumps up and hopes I won’t notice that he still hasn’t showered even though it’s 8 o’clock at night. (Yeah, it must be nice working from home.)
I once decided to be really clever and print out my weekly schedule for my husband every Sunday. Foolproof, I thought! Yet, by Tuesday he’s lost the schedule or just stopped looking at it altogether and resumed his daily, “What time are you coming home today?” questioning while continuing to be surprised and sometimes dismayed by my answer. For now, I’ve given up. And hey, maybe one day he’ll actually surprise me and have dinner waiting for me when I get home. Well…a girl can dream, right?
Ha ha this is just like my husband. Totally selective hearing with him. I constantly have to repeat myself and it always takes a bunch of tries before it actually sticks!
I was actually going to comment about making him a copy of your hours before I scrolled down and saw that you already had. Maybe send him a text every morning as an FYI!
I actually blogged about my hubby today and his decorative skills. Totally reminded me of your blog so I had to head over and say hello!
My boyfriend calls me at work every day and asks, “what time will you be home?”
The problem is that I don’t have a different work schedule every day! I am consistently off work at 5 pm and home by 5:30 at the latest. Every. Night. For the two years he’s known me. But still, every day, “What time will you be home?” I’ll admit it’s slightly cute. But mostly, it’s just annoying.
Oh gosh, this is my husband! To a T.
He also likes to act as if I am Google or Wikipedia or some other semi-reliable source to question on basically anything. “What is the temperature outside?” “Is it going to rain later?” “What time does Friends come on?” “When are the Golden Globes?” etc. Gotta love him though.
Sadly in my marriage im the one that can never figure out what time hubs is getting home. He’s a Fellow so his schedule changes monthly and really even with knowing which department he’s in when he gets home depends on how the days going. And still around 4 everyday i txt to ask “what time will you be home” wait for answer then follow up with is that in real ppl time or doctor time. (which means add an hour at least) he is nice enough to print his hours and post it on the fridge and rather then look i ask him it is after all his job to remember it.
My husband can actually have an entire conversation (about something entirely serious or something trivial, it doesn’t matter) with me and then not know what we talked about. However, I won’t know this until a later follow up discussion wherein I relay some important other part of the story to him and he claims to not know anything about the subject anyway. I don’t know how he does it.
Does he also deny that you had that convesation with him. Mine does . Early on, in our marriage I actually thought that I was having fantasies about talking to soemone else.
Wife,
Great post! And hey, it reminds me: what time ARE you coming home tonight?
Love ya!
Husband
My Hubby does the same thing, but with T.V shows. Every week we watch the same shows. Every week the shows are on the same time, same channel. But every week the hubs asks, “what is shows are on tonight?” So every week we have the same discussion. And of course the really annoying part is, even when I tell him what is on he does not believe me. He always has has to comment “are you sure that is on tonight?” Apparently to my hubby I am the also the TV guide channel.
I don’t get it for my work schedule. But anything that’s not “ordinary” takes multiple repetitions. He doesn’t remember even after that and will end up calling me if I don’t appear when he thinks I should. He once managed to lose me when I went out of town, despite lengthy discussions of flight schedules, airport parking and seeing me leave the house with my suitcase!
waiting for dinner…don’t hold your breath…I love it when I get home from work and my husband has been home ALL DAY…and ever so boldly says…”Babe, what are you going to cook for dinner tonight”….excuse me….but were you not sitting at home all day? Would it have been to hard for you to have prepared dinner? I think not. So, we have had this discussion several times…it has finally sank in…when it’s his turn to cook…we eat out…a bitter sweet dinner…he cooks =’s eating out…I cook =’s cooking and cleaning…somehow, I feel cheated…
Neither one of us have regular schedules and after 27 years of being married to a pilot, I still can’t remember where he’s flying to or exactly when he’s coming home. I know I’m terrible. He can’t keep my schedule straight either, and if I didn’t write everything down and check my schedule several times a day, neither could I.
My husband and I work together and he’ll usually ask me, “What time do you think we’ll be getting out of here today?” I’ve come to think that this is just a question that men feel they need to ask. What they do with the information gathered is anyone’s guess.
Me too! Just like the above commentor, my schedule hasn’t changed in YEARS! And every day, “What time are you coming home?” Seriously???
You have to interpret the “What time are you coming home?” comment. What he really wants to ask you is “when is dinner going to be ready because I’m hungry.” He’s trying to figure out if he’s gonna have to make mac & cheese for dinner or settle for cereal.
Have you tried magnetizing it to the ‘frig so that it can’t too far too soon. be sure to tell him not to remove it.
This happens round here but for ANYTHING that involves me going anywhere or doing anything. I can tell him 3-4 times per event, even on the morning itself, and he will still say, “what time are you going to the dentist”, “what time’s your flight?”, “what time are you going to the gym?”. Grrrrrrrrr. Oh, the gym timetable is on the fridge and I do the same classes eeeevvverrry week. My husband ANNOYS me.
Like all of you I can have the conversation of my schedule but my husband doesn’t hear.
Me: I’m working late on Friday so I won’t be home until 10:30 or so.
Him: OK, I’ll leave the front light on for you.
Friday morning rolls around…
Him: What time will you be home today?
Me: 10:30 or so.
Him: And when did you plan on telling me?
Selective hearing.
My husband is famous for the “What time will you be home” call five to ten minutes after I’ve left. Usually it’s during the Saturday morning ‘me time’ (nothing huge, just starbucks and a yoga class.) If I elect not to answer my cell I’ll get four or five subsequent calls followed by two texts. Of course, they all bear the same message “Honey, I know it’s your ‘me time’ but when are you coming home?”. Seriously? I JUST LEFT. *sigh*